2 weeks ago on King D’s birthday eve, I was hyping him ahead of the day because as usual e dey shark me the assistant celebrant more than the main man
Then it dawned on me that in the past 11 years (courtship and then marriage), we have constantly celebrated each other’s special day no matter how little. I made jest of him as I reminded him of the gift he got me during the first birthday I celebrated after we started our courtship (Can you guess what it was?
, I have a little gift for the first right guess)
One thing I miss about being close in proximity to my extended family back home is how we celebrate. For every family member’s birthday up to the youngest baby in the house, we celebrate. Talm’about the correct jollof or fried rice and chicken for lunch and the constant k pounded yam and egusi soup for dinner. We don’t have to go out for every celebration but one thing is sure, we celebrate! Now, all I get are pictures of the pounded yam
This little act as it seems, goes a long way in strengthening the family bond. It makes every member feel loved and special, no one feels out of place.
You don’t need to break the bank to celebrate your spouse or loved ones, the thought is what counts the most. If you can’t afford a dinner at a 5-star restaurant, enter the kitchen and make a sumptuous meal better still the celebrant’s favorite, they would love it. Spend the day sharing tales of how blessed you feel having them in your life. Reach out to friends and loved ones requesting they join you to celebrate them with a call or text message.
It’s a special time to go all out loving them the way they want to be loved. I know some women whose day would be made just by getting a breakfast in bed specially made for them by their spouse, regardless of the taste.
If quality time is their thing, take the day off if you can and spend it together. If receiving gift is a major love language for your spouse, try to get them something no matter how little, even airtime or data subscription would make them happy.
If physical touch is their language, let your happy birthday start from 12 midnight and at the end of that day, ‘register’ should have been marked at least 3 times 
not leaving out the big O with some kisses and hugs in between (if you know, you really know)
Before I am summoned by the church elders, let me stop here. Summary is try to create a celebration culture in your home, celebrate your spouse, your children, their milestones and special days, even if it’s with a cup of ice cream. These are memories that lasts a lifetime.
I pray for those willing, may the Lord always supply your needs in Jesus name. Amen.
written for REGEN
