King D and I were out and about sometime last week and after all our waka, I spotted a nice brunch spot so we decided to have brunch there before heading home. The girls were at school so we were just supposed to chop and clean mouth 
Two bites in, King D muttered how good the food tasted and that he had to bring the girls there for a treat as well. I was happy because that meant I was going to get a second round! Hahaha (kidding)
Anyways, over the weekend we took them over and surely it was a treat. As we waited for our meals, I took a picture of the girls (our view) as they sat across the table and asked Deedee to take a picture of King D and I as well (their view).
And there it dawned on me again, marriage starts out as you choosing someone who catches your fancy (the tdm, fat pocket, cute, figure 
and then it accelerates beyond that. It becomes your children’s picture of possibility. It becomes their first idea of what a married life can be.
The day-to-day activities, the communication, the silent treatment, the jokes, the tears, the outburst, the belly laughs, the goodbye kisses, the care and affection, the prioritization and everything in between ….. they see most of it and even the ones they don’t see, they may perceive!
So today, I encourage first the singles to pls look beyond yourself as you choose. Don’t choose for surface level reasons only, go deeper! You are choosing the father/mother of some great destinies. Pls pick with wisdom and divine leading.
Secondly, to my fellow married couples treating each other right now goes beyond you. There are nations seated across you taking notes. We are the ones painting the picture of what marriage may look like for the next generation, let’s do it right! We can communicate respectfully, we can listen to our spouse as they communicate their grievances and not shrug it off, we can step up and away from bitterness and counting scores!
Lastly, if you’re in an abusive marriage and you’re staying for the children. Pls see a marriage counsellor to help you understand the impact of an abusive marriage on children. Because you might be staying to damage them further.
May the peace of the Lord be with us all. May our marriages succeed! Amen
Written by Olabisi David
Presented by Damilare Mike David
written for REGEN
