Happy New Year, Fam! Thank you for being here and for your constant support and encouragement. May this year bring for you immense joy and peace beyond your understanding. Amen!
A new year is here and with it comes some evaluation of things that went well in the previous year as well as those that went south!
And then the question “how can I do better?” arises.
Narrowing it down to your love life! First, you should have a personal and joint love goal towards moving your relationship forward as a couple. If this is missing on your list of goals for the year, abeg add am!
Few things to note about your love life goals;
The SMART goal model comes to play here as well.
1. It’s important to make sure your goal is specific. Don’t just say I want a happy home this year. Go a step further by specifying what area you want to work on. For instance I want to communicate better, I want to be more patient, I want to be more helpful in the home, I want to be more available to perform my conjugal duties in the other room.
2. Next, your goal needs to be measurable. This means knowing the parameters you can score yourself with to see if you met the goal or not. So you must answer the question ’how?’ for the goals you set.
Examples are;
a) I want to communicate better by listening to understand rather than to respond.
b) I want to be more patient by taking a break when the conversation is getting heated and never raising my voice.
c) I want to be more helpful in the home by identifying and fixing things I can do without waiting for my spouse.
d) I want to be more available in the other room by making it a priority, preparing my mind for it and not giving excuses all the time.
Already a long read and we still have few more to go! So we will continue from here next time! Thanks for reading and pls get started on your love goals for the year if you haven’t already!
May your marriage succeed!
Written by Olabisi David
Presented by Damilare Mike David
written for REGEN
