Did this ever happen to you growing up?
You were assigned a task or house chore, or you woke up that morning ready to make a difference and set out to make your parents proud
You cleaned the dishes, swept and mop the floor, arranged your room and made your bed. You finished just in time, as your parents walked in! Your eyes lit up as you anticipated the highest praise, with your shoulders raised with an invisible pad only you could see! And then….right there, your mom or dad notices the one thing you missed; the dust on the television or the pot you forgot to wash.
How did you feel at that moment? Angry? Disappointed? Confused?
Intimacy with your spouse comes with openness and freedom to tell them what no one else may have the courage to. Love comes with wanting each other to become better versions of yourselves.
However, there is a need for caution if we start to become critical of every decision, action or inactions of our spouses. Don’t assume the position of a constant critic in your spouse’s life!
This is what happens when we criticize our spouse all the time;
– Their self esteem diminishes
– They may become defensive
– They start to overthink or overdo things to satisfy you or on the flip side, lack motivation to keep going!
Of course, you don’t have to turn your eyes away but it’s important to choose your battles wisely. Some things are not important in the grand scheme of things and you should overlook them, even the important ones sometimes can wait!
Conclusively, let your voice of applause be way louder than the voice of correction!
P.S: Check the image in the comments for how King D and I arrived safely in Dubai
Written by Olabisi David
Presented by Damilare Mike David
written for REGEN
