If you love watching hallmark Christmas movies like me 
I guess you can relate to what I’m about to say.
For many, Christmas is that time of the year when families gather. The parents, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. But let’s talk a little about what it means for the couple.
For a couple, it would likely mean spending time with one of the spouse’s extended family and that could be bitter or sweet depending on how you set yourself up. There may be some fun, excitement and also some meddling and poking. Some go on the holidays a happy couple and return full of anger and resentment. Sadly, some never recover from the impact of such interference.
I’d say the bulk of the job is on the spouse whose family they are visiting.
Few tips that can set you up for a successful holiday with extended family;
– There is a reason for the word ‘extended’ , so be intentional about putting your nuclear family especially your spouse first.
– Try to bridge the gap by helping both parties get to know and understand each other better.
– Be ready to defend your spouse. Be their voice. Trust me, it’s better to be their voice than for them to have to defend themselves.
– Don’t be quick to share stuff that you have not yet agreed to share with family! I know you’re excited but keep it under control.
– Manage your moments internally. Ensure everyone is not in your business. If there’s a disagreement between you and your spouse, settle it without making a scene.
What other tips do you have? And how do you share holidays with both sides of the family?
Merry Christmas, friends! May your marriage succeed
Written by Olabisi David
Presented by Damilare Mike David
written for REGEN
