The Invisible Score Board of Marriage!

I was speaking to a friend few days back who wants to write her licensing exams and it took me back to how life was a little over a year ago!

I was in the middle of series of licensing exams and even though I tried to be available at the home front, my reality was that at that moment I wasn’t able to give 100% attention, however King D covered all fronts at the time.

There was also a time King D was out of our city for work and it was just the girls and I roughing it all the way until Dada returned.

There was a time people believed marriage was 50-50, and then we got to a point where we learnt that it’s actually 100-100 (which I still believe it is) with the notion that everyone should bring their best to the table without holding back.

But let’s talk about when one party is not able to give their best at a time, this could be as a result of a job loss, career demands, health challenges, ministerial duties, pregnancy, education and so on!

The reality of marriage is that at some point, one may be giving more than the other; giving more time, more attention, doing more chores, spending more. There is no need to keep scores,how you support each other through whatever comes your way shows your real commitment to the relationship.

If you’re on the giving end, understand that you’re stepping up because you truly love your partner and you want to support their growth! Ask for help if you begin to feel overwhelmed.

If you’re on the receiving end, show lots of appreciation! This makes your partner feel seen, acknowledged and valued! Step in whenever you can, if it’s within your power don’t let it linger for too long! (Pls continue reading below👇)3d

• Amidst all of this, it’s important to remind each other that it’s just a phase and it would pass, keep in mind that you’re working as a team and it’s okay if one person is lifting more weights at that time, it’s no
  competition between you two and on the scoreboard; it’s not both of you against each other but your team against the world!
  
  It’s of no use keeping scores, it could sabotage your relationship. Keep your eyes on the goal and when that season is over, celebrate your wins no matter how little!!!
  
  Olabisi David
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