King D and I used to argue a lot! I win some, he wins some and some remain unsettled forever! Well it’s very much expected if you married a Chelsea fan and you don’t like to see the loud blue wearing people win because we won’t hear the last of it
(on a lighter note)
But honestly, we’ve had different opinions on several matters and sometimes even the ones that doesn’t concern us directly.
But growth changes a lot of things, over the years you learn to choose communication over arguments. You are able to detect quickly when a discussion is drifting towards argument and wisely save it for later. You come to understand that even your spouse can be completely different from you understanding that a lot of things shape our ideas and opinion about things especially our upbringing and exposure.
The beautiful thing is that some people attain this level of growth even before getting married. So they enter into marriage knowing they can communicate and express opinions without arguing. If a child never saw his/her parents argue, it’s a big possibility they may never choose arguments.
Wrapping this up, some things may be hard but attainable. When people share their truth on their marriage experience, it’s not up to us to call it a lie or truth! If pleasant, you can open your marriage up to that possibility (without undue pressure) and if it’s unbelievable, you can leave it at that!
P.S: This post about arguments doesn’t justify suppressing and oppressing your spouse until they no longer have a voice of their own.
May your marriage be blissful!!! Amen
Written by Olabisi David
Presented by Damilare Mike David
written for REGEN
