Few months back when Debbie Enenche announced her engagement to her hubby who served in the media department, reading through comments I saw a number of amazing comments.
Some brothers were welcoming the idea of working in the media department while some sisters were suggesting change of focus from the spirikoko departments in church.
Then it really dawned on me that we have unconsciously built a biased and judgemental view of people’s spiritual life based on the department in which they function in the church.
Speaking with my single sisters, many of them usually have a concern about spirituality when approached by some brothers. They tell me “I am more spiritual than him” and then I ask “how do you measure that?”
From my days in campus fellowship, I’ve seen overtime that an average Christian lady would be more fascinated by a brother whose tongues are the loudest and most sophisticated, anointed worshipper, one who is gifted with eloquence of delivering the word of God. He would be rated more spiritual than the one who runs around with wires and cables during the service or one who has a camera hung on his neck capturing moments during the service.
The question is if we all decide to only function in the music, prayer, and teaching departments, how much do you think you would enjoy fellowshiping with the brethren when you have the noisy speakers distorting the sound or lights that keep tripping off.
The plot twist is that some people have mastered the art of connecting so much under corporate anointing during services but still lacking in building a personal relationship with God outside of church services. Yes, their tongue is the loudest but the moment they share the grace in fellowship at the close of service, their lips and Bibles are sealed until next service.
In a nutshell, be careful not to judge people’s spiritual life based on public show. Consider the state of their heart towards God, how they love Him and obey His commands, their zeal to know Him beyond the four walls of the church and loudest tongues.
If you think this post is an exaggeration, ask those who married some firebrand men and have to constantly reconcile if the nice and diligent man everyone knows in church is the same person as the ‘monster’ she lives with at home. Many are suffering and smiling, I don’t want you to. Be sensitive!!!
Written by Olabisi David
written for REGEN
